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Forgiveness
When we can stop blaming other people for our problems, take responsibility
and realize that we are human, bound to make mistakes in life, we will learn
to Forgive Ourselves!!! Thus opening the door to forgive others!!!
How many people do you know with what we refer to as chronic migraine
headaches, or one of the many other unanswered sicknesses such as chronic
fatigue syndrome. My family was filled with these diseases. Through
learning and doing the things I was taught during my therapy and training
sessions, I was finally able to completely rid myself of the headaches, and
other ailments. I also was able to learn and comprehend that these headaches
and more then half of the sicknesses we humans suffer from are primarily
caused by ourselves holding resentment towards ourselves, and others.
There are quite a few doctors and healers that have come to this same
conclusion. Dr. Joseph Murphy has several books on this subject. One of his
books I use daily is entitled "The Miracle Power of Infinite Riches."
Within this book, is example after example where Dr. Murphy learned that his
client was resentful, he taught them to forgive and the illness disappeared
as my headaches did years ago. Our spiritual and religious leaders have
known this on the Spiritual level for centuries. Chruist talked about
forgiveness a great deal.
Being raised in an unforgiving atmosphere, I was not taught what forgiveness
truly was until I started studying with my first mentor in 1981. To this
point I had suffered years with these horrid pains. I would wake up and go
to sleep with this pounding of my brain. There were times I could not move,
as the thunder would explode inside my head. All resentment built over the
years of abuse and neglect.
Joan (my first mentor, and close friend) took one look at me and began to
talk about forgiveness. Of course I believed I had forgiven all those whom
had hurt me but I did not go deep enough to truly reach my goal. I had not
let go of the pain nor had I forgiven myself. The resentment and guilt I had
stored inside myself for so many years, was causing my headaches, chronic
fatigue and fiber mialga in my muscles. Joan, made it very clear to me that
if we are sincerely true to ourselves, love ourselves and always forgive we
tend to be a great deal better in both the emotional and physical health
department. It took a many hours of talking, thinking, learning and
practicing of these lessons, for me to grasp the understanding and accept
this as truth, so I did this work and the results are amazing. Of course
this was almost twenty years ago and I have not suffered with any of these
chronic sicknesses since.
To truly forgive we must first and foremost forgive ourselves as well as:
1. Realize that we must forgive in order to love.
Forgiveness is the key to love. When we do not forgive we build an emotional
wall against love itself, therefore we are not capable of giving or
receiving love.
2.Build a deep desire to love and heal.
Sometimes forgiveness seems so very hard due to the importance of the pains
and loss. Therefore we must build a healthy desire to love ourselves and
others to find the proper strength to forgive all the wrongs done on all
sides.
3. Face, deal with and let go of all past issues and pain from
such.
Open our minds, {all the blocks must open}, deal with all the old horrors,
memories and emotions
attached to them, and resolve these issues in order to put them behind us.
4. Forgive all those who we believed has ever hurt us in any
way.
Forgiving others is not needed in order to help them but more so to help
yourself, even though the positivity and healing helps all. If one is unable
to forgive others until one forgives oneself, then we are truly forgiving
others in order to help ourselves.
You don't ever have to tell this person they are forgiven, it is and can
remain between you and your Creator. No matter what was done to us within
our lives, forgiveness is possible if we truly wish to forgive. Nothing is
unforgivable.
We need to understand why, and once we have found that, it becomes so much
easier.
In order to forgive others we must forgive ourselves first. No different
then respect or love unless we attend to our own back yard and give these
things to ourselves we are incapable of sharing them with others. Once we
have done this, we must extend this forgiveness to all those whom have hurt
us.
5. Collect all the learning from all painful experiences.
In every experience we go through in life we are given what I refer to as a
jewel. No matter how hard the situation was to endure there is always a
learning experience within.
6. Let it go!
7. Put the experience behind you and go forward with love.
Angel Femia
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