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Jealousy and Resentment are two of the more misunderstood emotions we all
have within us. Most do not realize that these two emotions cause many
illnesses in almost every area of our bodies, minds {brains}, and souls.
1.. Emotionally jealousy and resentment are very painful. Both these
emotions cause emotional pain to themselves and those they use them on. To
the victim or target of these emotions, the effects can cause many emotional
illnesses such as Chronic Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder, Headaches, Low Self
Esteem and more. The person sending this negativity is already inside the
depression they cause the other.
2.. Physically these two very negative emotions are very stressful. This
stress causes many diseases to grow in our bodies. Stress has linked many
forms of Cancer, Ulcers, Migraine Headaches, Heart Attacks, Strokes,
Depression and more.
3.. Spiritually Jealousy and resentment are very negative dark cold
feelings. Jealousy and Resentment puts out such negative feelings that they
have been known to cause Pneumonia and many other respiratory diseases and
in Mozart's {Amadeus} situation, these emotions being fed directly into him
through his best friend's care, caused death. The guilt we hold from using
these emotions out of place or far too often also aids in these illnesses we
create for ourselves.
Dr Joseph Murphy, a highly respected Doctor in Meta-physics, Psychology, and
Spirituality has written many books on these particular subjects. These
books can be found in any Spiritual or Alternative Healing Store as well as
most of our public Libraries.
Amazing Laws of Cosmic Power, Miracle Power for Infinite Riches, Super
Sub-Conscious.
Many believe that if a person does not get jealous they don't love them. We
hear this type of talk in conversations everywhere. The real truth is that
if we love someone there is absolutely no jealousy involved and if there is
it is not love, it is simply possession.
Resentment is intertwined with jealousy and one is never found without the
other. That anger twinge we feel directly after jealousy sets in is
resentment. Resentment is also not any part of love, but is a major part of
hatred.
As humans we have been programmed to hide our true feelings to manipulate
everyone into believing we are "NICE PEOPLE". The truth is that a truly nice
person would be honest and disciplining ourselves not to allow ourselves to
hide our feelings much less allow our jealousies to remain without dealing
with them properly.
Jealousy and resentment are emotions that cause much of the health and
emotional problems we deal with on a daily basis. It has been proven through
scientific experimentation that emotions have a great deal more to do with
why our health problems are so much greater in 2004 then they were in 1960.
Back then people had a great deal more control of our lust factors. Lust is
a part of all of us. In it's place it is great and helps us in our lives but
if not used correctly in the proper places can be just as damaging. In lust
all the most negative emotions are found right along side of passion. Among
these emotions, jealousy and resentment are found.
Jealousy is that hateful ugly feeling that comes over any of us when we are
insecure of our space, friendships, jobs, marriages or turf is being invaded
and taken over by another.
A jealous person instantly becomes angry when attention is paid to another
as opposed to our selves. Jealousy feels as though a bottom was just dropped
out of our guts. Fear and insecurities becomes present.
One example of a jealous instance is when two people are talking and they
have each others undivided attention, another person walks into the room and
the first conversation ends. This new person is now getting this attention.
The person now without this undivided attention then begins to project very
negative, nasty feelings. This nastiness can be hidden to the naked eye but
the emotions fill the air and all parties become emotionally touchy from
this negative energy.
Another is one enters into a persons life on a romantic level and are
dating. Then he/she introduces you to their friend and that scared ugly
feeling creeps in. That feeling is jealousy.
Or now it's time to meet future mother in law. Personally, I have been
married three times and each time I had to meet mother in laws, they had
ear-to-ear smiles but it felt like I was on the chopping block. That feeling
of being scrutinized is jealousy.
That little twinge of anger after the jealous feelings have entered is
resentment. Most work very hard not to let their resentful or jealous
feelings show. No one wants to be known as being a jealous, resentful
person.
After all we are all "NICE GUYS".
Resentment is that ugly feeling that comes right after the jealous twinge.
Especially when the jealous person does not get what is desired. This
resentment grows and that great feeling of kinship or love once felt for
their friend is rendered to total negativity.
People seem to be under the impression that resenting has to be done before
they are able to forgive. That is just an excuse to get even and feed our
egos
Resentment is when someone hurts another in some form and they decide to get
him or her back. Hence the term: "Payback Is A Bitch". Many times this
resentment is done in total manipulation and the victim rarely knows they
are being attacked.
A good example of resentment is when a boss tells his worker to do something
a certain way and the worker agrees to do this work as he's instructed but
as soon as his boss's back is turned this worker just ignores the boss and
does what they want. The worker is doing so out of jealousy of the bosses
position and resentment for being told what and how to do the job.
Another example is when a person is talking with one child and another child
comes in and wants attention but this attention just can't be given until
the present problem is resolved. The child without the attention starts to
complain and cause trouble. The unattended child acts out of jealousy and
their tantrum becomes so bad that they are asked to leave the room. This
child walks off in anger, which is truly resentment.
You can usually tell whether a person is jealous and resentful by the way
they react in certain circumstances. Their mood changes at the entrance of
another person, they get defensive and refuse to talk about the issue at
hand, they take control using deceit and manipulation. This all comes out in
the head games played when a person is allowing them selves to be jealous,
resentful or a combination of both.
Examples:
1. All in the home is in good spirits. Another person enters into the
situation for whatever reason and all of a sudden one from the home is in a
very bad mood. This mood swing is right out of the blue and permeates the
air with a heavy negative feeling. The jealous person becomes very nasty and
begins to snarl and hurt everyone else's feelings for no reason at all. This
is jealousy coupled with resentment.
2. A man and woman have an argument over something they were doing and how
to do it. They finally resolve their issues and agree on how this should be
done. One of them decides again to change the way things were agreed upon
being done and just go do what they originally had wanted to do. I have had
this crap done to me thousands of times. The outcome was always the same. My
partner was filled with jealousy coupled with resentment, getting their way
in a very manipulative, deceitful fashion.
4.. Two people are having a conversation. One gets defensive and becomes
over-bearing. When this negative attitude is brought to their attention and
it is made clear that this is not the way one should communicate they get
angry and end the conversation. Being a caring person you may continue to
try to resolve the situation and get the communication back on track but
they walk out or hang up the phone repeatedly. Finally they just don't talk
to you or answer the phone at all, and even have others ball faced lie about
them being home to answer. Usually the reason for this over-bearing attitude
and defensiveness is due to the fact that the person they were communicating
with has information the negative person wanted to know more about. This is
jealousy and the walking out and not answering the phone is resentment.
If we want to really get our selves and family units back on track we will
all have to learn that emotions such as jealousy and resentment have to be
disciplined properly and only used in places where they will produce some
good as opposed to just allowing ourselves to use them completely out of
control.
Real Self Control is controlling the use of our emotions {where, how, when,
how much ect.} Self Control does not control the other guy's!
Blessings and Love
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